Failure is good?

I am the first to admit that failure is not fun. In the moment failure happens I want to crawl under a rock and stay there until I die.

Side Note: I just want to make the statement that I’m talking about the kind of failure that happens in spite of your preparation to succeed. I am NOT talking about failing a math test that you didn’t study for. If you didn’t study for the test then you kinda deserve to fail.

The funny thing about failure is that it will teach you something (if you let it). One of the best things you can do for yourself is learn to get over the pain of failure and tap into the power of failure.

We learn wisdom from failure much more than success. We often discover what we will do, by finding out what we will not do.
Samuel Smiles

There is always a lesson in failure, you just have to find it. Failure could be a lesson in letting go or not giving up or you are a survivor.

There’s a flip side, of course, and it’s this:

The absolute worst thing you could do is let failure turn to fear.

Because once it’s turned to fear then other things start happening; you stop trying, you don’t believe in yourself, you give up. Don’t let it get to that. Ever.

But what if I try again and fail again?

Good question! So I will leave you with this:

Our greatest glory consist not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. Oliver Goldsmith


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An Apple a Day…

I don’t know about you, but I love food. From my mid-morning snack of an apple and pretzels, to a delicious BBQ on the beach, I love eating and cooking food.

As girls, we can have a love-hate relationship with food. As soon as we perceive ourselves getting “too chubby” or “too” something, we often go on crash diets. In fact, dieting without understanding what your body needs can be counterproductive. By cutting out entire food groups or fasting from food for several days, you rob your body of important nutrition. In many instances, this can even cause your body to maintain weight! It’s important to understand the basics about what your body needs to function normally.

While I’m not a nutrition expert, I’ve learned a lot by understanding what is the recommended intake of each food per day.

(insert food guide here)

For teen girls, here’s what’s recommended:

Vegetables: 7 servings

Grain products: 6

Milk and alternatives: 3-4

Meat and alternatives: 2

As you pack your lunch each day or contemplate skipping breakfast, it’s important to keep this in mind. If you find that you’re eating too much of one category (maybe meat with every meal) or too little of another (maybe not enough fruits and vegetables), it might be time to make some adjustments.

Eating a well-balanced and healthy diet has lots of benefits. Your body needs a nutritious diet to give you energy, help you think and remember what you learn, keep you healthy and help you grow. Imagine how hard it is for your body to do all of these things when your diet is mostly chips, pop and Big Macs!

The meal that you are most likely to skip is breakfast. But if you think about it, your body hasn’t eaten since the evening before, and you wake up needing energy! Here are two easy and delicious breakfast ideas.

Strawberry Banana Smoothie:

1/2 c. plain yogurt

5-6 strawberries

1 banana

1/4 c. juice

For added veggies, throw in 1/4 spinach. Feel free to experiment with different kinds of juice or fruits. Blend ingredients in a blender and enjoy!

English Muffin Breakfast Sandwich:

For students on the go, this is an easy and delicious breakfast!

1. Toast an English muffin and butter it if desired.

2. Beat one egg and put into a microwavable mug, pour in a splash of milk. Sprinkle with salt and pepper.

3. Microwave the egg on high for one minute. Carefully remove the mug from the microwave and check to see if it’s cooked.

4. Remove the egg-circle from the mug with a fork, and put on the English muffin. Add cheese if desired.

You can wrap this sandwich in foil and eat it on the way to school. Enjoy!

Got a recipe or healthy eating tip you’d like to share? Leave it in our comments section!

Shine on

Do you ever crave a kind word? Just one? Especially on a day where the clouds smother the blue sky and everything looks bleak and you’re not sure when the sun will ever come out again? I know I do. Days like that I desperately need someone to see something special in me and tell me. Remind me. Because I forgot somewhere what it is about me that is special. Maybe some of you have never heard what it is that is special about you. Can I tell you that there is something? I know there is. Your smile. Your eyes. Your laugh. Those things are all special.

I’ve found that finding something special in someone else makes me feel special. When I crave a kind word I try to go out of my way to offer one to someone else. Because I’m probably not the only one having a cloudy day. Someone else is too. I can at least make their day a little brighter and, inevitably, my day shines a little more, too.

Mahatma Gandhi said: “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

Such a great statement for the big, sweeping, revolutionary idealists and for the little spark of an idea people like me. A person who just wants to feel a little special so I’ll make someone else feel special. It’s that easy.

Here are a few ideas to make someone feel special:

1. Make eye contact and smile at someone you pass on the street

2. At Starbucks/Tim Horton’s buy the person behind you their coffee

3. Talk to the next cashier you come across. Say their name and thank them

4. Give a compliment to someone you normally don’t talk to

5. Write a note to a relative/friend/teacher who has influenced you for the better. Tell them how they made a difference

Don’t underestimate your shine!

xo

Friends With Benefits

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Friends with benefits. Just a hook up. It all sounds pretty harmless. And it is, right? While magazines, your friends, and guys might tell you that  random hook-ups are just a little bit of summer lovin’, physical affection without a committed relationship can actually be pretty problematic. There are basically two main reasons that casual […]

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A smile.

A glance.

A word.

A touch.

What makes a stranger a friend?

A whisper.

A look.

A turn.

A hurt.

What makes a friendship cease?

Embrace the people who come.

Release the ones who leave.

Trust in the divine plan.

Let it set you free.

How to be a Gentleman

I found this letter in a pile of old papers I was going through. Thought it would be a good reminder of what we deserve. I know of a few people I’d like to print it off for and hand it too 😉

Dear Sir,

It has come to my attention that you no longer know how to be a gentleman. Perhaps this letter can serve as a reminder. If you need to, please feel free to keep this letter on you at all times so you can reference it at any moment.

  1. A gentleman is polite. He is kind and courteous to everyone: his mother, his teacher, his friends, his non-friends. He is aware of how he can help the people around him: holding the door open for them, saying please and thank-you, offering his seat on the bus or subway to the elderly or pregnant ladies.
  2. A gentleman doesn’t swear. Or, he if he does, it is done in a discreet manner as to not offend anyone around him and only during appropriate moments.
  3. A gentleman in public does not: belch, fart, get drunk, speak too loudly and is always in control of his mind and body.
  4. A gentleman treats women with respect. He does not ogle them or say anything degrading about or to them. He does not talk down to them. He treats them in a protective manner, her safety always his main concern.
  5. A gentleman is aware of good hygiene. He must bathe and groom himself regularly. He must wear deodorant and not overuse cologne.

Of course, if we do happen to find such a gentleman, you can be sure he’ll be looking for a lady whom he can respect. In order to be one of those, we have to respect ourselves first.

You deserve a gentleman but, more importantly, you deserve to be a lady.

xo

How to Survive Exam Season

It’s that time of year again. I don’t mean beach weather or the season finale of Big Bang Theory, I mean the end of the school year. As the weather gets warm and the days get longer, teachers seem to pile on the homework as exams loom large. Whether you’re a dedicated student or find school boring, end of year projects and tests can be frightening. So, how do you balance Prom, hanging out with friends, sports and studying for finals?

Here’s a list of five tips that will help you balance your time and make it to summer vacation with minimal stress!

1. Make priorities: Writing down your assignments, due dates and obligations can help you know what’s important. From there, you can decide what order to do things in, and what you can leave until a later date. Knowing your priorities will go a long way in helping you decide how to spend your time.

2. Go to bed on time: Your body needs a full night’s sleep to be able to function well. When you’re working hard at school, it’s crucial to give your body the rest it needs. Go to bed on time and wake up early: it’s the best way to get work done and stay on track. Save the all-nighters and late night T.V. for summer vacation.

3. Work hard, play hard: Spend time concentrating on your work; turn off the internet, put your phone on silent, and focus. Give yourself regular breaks by spending time relaxing, exercising or hanging out with loved ones. This can help you recharge your batteries. A few solid hours of work followed by fun can be much more effective than wasting a day pretending to study and actually watching Youtube videos.

4. Ask for help: Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Whether you need an Algebra tutor, a ride to school or a listening ear, it’s okay. Times of high stress are not meant to be handled alone; your family, friends and teachers are likely to be happy to support you if you ask!

5. Keep it in perspective: While grades are important, you are not defined by the marks you achieve. It’s important to do your best, but your future happiness is not contingent on the mark you receive on your European history project. Do your best and know that you are loved and valuable no matter how you do in school.

As you try these tricks, remember that learning to manage your time well is a life-long process.

Allow yourself room to make mistakes and remember, summer is just around the corner!